Recently I somehow have started observing things/people around me more closely.What I inferred was everyone is stuck in their own set of problems or situations and is wondering what to do ? People looking around to seek help thinking someone can tell them how to deal with the situation or how to overcome the problem.
But what they don’t realize is that the person advising them might himself be facing some situation/crisis/unresolved issues/loss.In this infinite world people never fail to astound me.On one hand some behave as if they don’t want to interfere in others matter, some might seem unfriendly, some unobliging, some unsympathetic ,showing indifference but when it comes on giving advice they turn into a benefactor…..giving solutions pretending as if they have been through the same pain or situation like they know how things work but the truth is they just have some experience either their own or of someone else which they thing might get you out of your problem.
But have you ever realized no two people will have exactly same problem for instance …if you fail in your exam, there might be another person who is also failing but he will have different background,different family situation, different type of pressure/stress and a different reason to fail…(ultimately didn’t study but why he couldn’t ?). The point I am trying to make here is It’s your problem/situation and no one has gone through the same thing.
So then WHAT TO DO?
What I think is collecting experiences of other people and listening to their advice will definitely help you to broaden your perspective towards the situation but ultimately it’s your call. No one but you alone will bear the consequences of your actions & decisions so
- Filter every thing you collected and analyse it.
- Think about what if it doesn’t work?
- Try to have a back up plan.
- Improve your lifestyle(it really helps by broadening your outlook towards the situation)
- keep improving , keep changing.